In this devotional book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, J. Parker talks about sex being an inconvenience and that you shouldn’t let it be especially if you want a quality, a long-lasting, intimate marriage. Obviously, you shouldn’t be your husband or wife’s beck and call when it comes to sex, but if he/she is knocking at the marriage bed, you should go to him/her and not turn them down just because it’s inconvenient. The Lord wants us to be one flesh in our marriage bed (196).
Things that seem inconvenient to sex could be as sleeping/napping, watching TV, doing laundry, and etc. Unless you are super exhausted or super sick, there isn’t any reason not to have sex. Sex shouldn’t be a chore. It should be a fun way to unwind and have fun with the love of your life. A few minutes of heaven is amazing and keep you connected in your spouse and your marriage. Even if you have kids, you learn to work around them. My husband is so much better now with this too and I am too. If the kids are occupied for a few minutes, we can sneak up and enjoy each other. If you give love towards to having sex, the sex is so much more intense too! I absolutely love it. You can’t always just be mommy and daddy or any of the other roles you play in your life, you need to be husband and wife always too! Your marriage always outlasts everything else, as it should.
So obviously, we intend to make sex a regular thing, daily if possible. My husband does shift work, so we work around his hours. A lot of those times is a quickie, but that’s okay. And sometimes we get really lucky and are able to do a longer intimate time together. It all depends on time, and what we are up to and how we feel. The Lord really blesses our marriage so much and even he has in our marriage bed too. And there is nothing wrong with asking for more. He wants the happiness and the intimacy in our marriage for us. And all the glory always goes back to Him!