In this devotional from the book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker, she talks about aligning your desires with God. There is a scripture J. Parker gave out for this one and here it is:
Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart–Psalm 37:4.
J stresses that “we must first take in delight in God’s design, in God’s heart for our marriage, in God himself–the Creator of intimacy. Then we can make requests of God, knowing our desires are in sync with our Father”(192).
My desires of my heart when it comes to sexual intimacy in my marriage that my husband would want sex more often and romance me more. But I know that some of that stops him from wanting that is because of our kids and time. He works all day and he needs time to recharge before coming to me. I want our marriage bed to be even more holy and pure between my husband and me.
I know that some of it is selfish towards my husband, but I’ve gotten so much better. I’ve become more understanding and loving and respecting him and not pushing him too much in being sexual. I want him to be sexual to me on his own terms and allow God to work in Him with that, not me. I want him to enjoy every moment we have together, sexual or not. I can take those desires to God. I delight in sex in His way.