In this devotional with J. Parker’s book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions toe Enhance Sex in Marriage, she talks about sex can be a comfort in difficult times. She stresses “Sexual intimacy can comfort in times of anxiety or grief.” (176). It provides a sense of calm and well-being. It can be an reassurance of your partner’s presence and constant love. Sex takes away the worries and hurt of current circumstances and bring you to to a place of pleasure and joy.
I have had sex in difficult times, with the passing of our angel babies and other family members who have gone home to Jesus. Now, my husband doesn’t always agree to do this right away but it eventually does happen. No, I don’t push him. Everybody deals with hard times in their own way. But I find that sex can be an extra comfort especially it’s with the person that you are married to and are in love with and love unconditionally. We’ve had sex together when our marriage wasn’t in the best place as well. And certainly in our darkest time in our marriage and when my husband decided to reopen his heart back to me. God says sex is good in the bad times. Because sex is a gift in the marriage.
I know my husband would rather use other comforts than sex sometimes because he doesn’t always want to associate sex as being used as “bad” but there is no violence or anything of that extreme. He still likes being pulled close and kisses and things like that. I would love to be cuddled and assured that I’m still safe with him and then have him make love to me afterwards, even with after labor and delivery of all of our babies (which again, wasn’t always right away, but eventually it happened within weeks time). Certainly I can see sex benefiting us with giving us a brief escape of happiness and love and pleasure especially in harder times and knowing that we’re still o kay and still love each other no matter what.