In this devotional from J. Parker’s book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, she talks about how it’s important to keep your marriage bed honest and pure. She stresses that “Honor involves paying attention, being engaged, focusing on the item we honor–the marriage bed” (Parker, 108). Honor and pure means being able to keep it pure from adultery and distraction (Parker, 108). Struggles could be third parties in your mind or lack of focus on your spouse. Sex is a such a special gift that is only shared between a husband and wife. We can pray to have God clear our minds and keep the focus on our spouses when we make love and that can help honor our sexual intimacy.
I am blessed to be married to my husband and share sex with him. We have had distractions in the past of thinking other things and or having third parties in our minds during sex. I make it my goal to keep my focus on only my husband. He is my gift and I have to honor him with my body and my mind and my heart. If I keep it the focus on him pure and honest, I am honoring God too. Sex is such a special and sacred thing to share in the bedroom and I want to enjoy it and enjoy my husband. The connection and the pleasure it brings and growing our marital intimacy. I want to connect with my husband at all levels… emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally and sexually. Know that I’m fully present for him in all nakedness, in all of me. Your spouse should do that too. Sex takes two to tango, and so does your marriage!