In this devotional from J. Parker’s book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, she talks about how the bedroom isn’t a place for deceit. It’s been said in the bible, that we shouldn’t lie to each other in marriage. This also implies in the bedroom. That we should be honest in whatever we feel or do sexually and be gentle about it.
I’ve known that sex isn’t always all fireworks in the bedroom, even when you are married. I can’t expect to orgasm or have all night fuck fest every time. Even when I had pre-marital sex, I tried to be as honest and confident I could be about myself sexually. I do share any concerns I have with the hubs, it may not always be right in the moment, but I do after the fact, even if it’s hours later. It all depends on the time of the day.
It’s known that I do have a high sex drive. I don’t go to self-pleasure or pornography these days now. I want to share and save any sexual energy I have for my husband. And I am generally sensitive and emotional. I am generally loud in the bedroom so I do feel like I am restricted in a little bit in this area but I know it’s because my husband’s worried about the kids hearing us even in the middle of the night. That I don’t have full confidence about that (as I feel like I should fully embrace and show verbally how I feel how I am in the moment), but I do for everything else. I generally feel like I am beautiful and wanted most of the time. And when it comes to sex, I crave for my husband. I do want him to be more intense and passionate and lustful more but I don’t want to be pushy either. So we’re just embracing and growing and learning and connecting in this sexual life of ours as we journey through our marriage together. But I am thankful how our sex life has improved throughout our relationship/marriage especially in the last three years to now. God has helped us work together in this area too 🙂