In this devotional from J. Parker’s book on Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, she talks about creating better love in the bedroom through sex. She compares the promises of love in 1 Corinthians 13 which goes as:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
So she talks to us to compare that love into the bedroom sex. How it would look like if we brought that into the bedroom too, not just the marriage overall.
Throughout our relationship and marriage, our sex has been fast-paced (fast and furious) but I do dream now and then to have more of a romantic slow style. I think maybe early on, I just wanted to get to the end fast, and my husband got trained so quick that he can’t last too long or isn’t accustomed to longer sex. I would love to be more patient (and for him too). I think generally we are kind with each other. I do like a little rough though at times. I’m more edgy 😉 I’ve felt like in the past I may have kept a record of wrongs like not being able to orgasm or it was too short, but I try to let that go now days. I’m learning to embrace it more no matter what happens. Because the fact that just my husband alone wants that private time with me. I know we’ve dishonored each other in the past with masturbation and/or pornography but that’s since changed now. We are more honorable and respectful to one another that way. I believe we have more trust with each other sex-wise and I am learning to be more hopeful. I have learned to be more thankful with anytime we have sex and send that glory back to God too. I am blessed and know that my husband is too.