From the beginning when Isaiah and I started dating as boyfriend and girlfriend almost 15 years ago (that is a long time already!), we have been really affectionate as a couple. It continued into our engagement three years into the relationship and finally into marriage, 5 years into the relationship. As it stands today, we’ve been married for almost 10 years. It will be exactly that this coming May 2016. During this nearly 10 years slot of being married, we’ve had kids. We have three living boys.
Just because we are parents, it hasn’t stopped us from wanting to share affection within each other in front of our boys. We hug, hold hands, tickle, snuggle, and kiss each other. It’s really normal for the boys to see. They also see us smile, and say I love you to each other a lot.
Because we are affectionate couple, we also share affections with our children. It’s naturally habitable. We do share hugs, and kisses with them, and say I love you with them too. Because we want them to know that love is awesome and it’s a great feeling. Knowing that you are loved and cared for. It’s rubbed off on them. Our three boys hug each other all the time. They play together. They do give kisses to each other occasionally. They hold hands when walking somewhere like to a store or something (more for safety reasons than anything else, but they do that for affectionate reasons too).
I feel that showing love brings joy, comfort, security and normalcy. That we are always there for them, and for each other.
We aren’t shy in showing affection beyond our marital home as well. We’ve kissed, hugged and said I love you in front of family and friends. They love that we still show them that we are still in love with each other and truly love each other that passionately and devotedly.
I want our kids to know that you don’t have to save everything in private. Yes, of course, save sex for your eyes only but do share kisses and all the other wonderful affections publicly. And that it’s awesome to be married to someone someday. I got really lucky at finding that person I wanted to spend the rest of my life at 17. But be assured that Jesus wants you to have love, and share love. The timing of course is always His.
Here’s a recent picture of us kissing on Sunday and this was at my husband’s extended family Christmas get together.