Communication has its up and downs. We’re both not big conversationalists. So usually most things we discuss about is the general day stuff, the weather and how the other is doing. Maybe the weekly plans and things like that. We tend to talk more deeper stuff via text messages when we’re apart. However, we do that in the car too.
We did a lot of get to know each other early on our dating days with those emails stuff with that what do you like and what you do believe in and all that stuff. We definitely did ask each other a lot, like what are you thinking about all that. But in the past, we would be very general and not elaborate or white lie it a bit.
These days now especially within the last two years, I’ve been trying to come up with more conversation starters with my husband so that we could communicate more deeply with each other. I found some online and I would imply those especially on date nights when we were actually alone and had no interruptions. Questions of the past, current and future things. We definitely also elaborate more on our answers when we get asked about what we are thinking about, and what we are feeling about. We are more honest and direct. We definitely talk more now that we’ve come out more from the standard movie/dinner date deal. We definitely share more hopes and dreams again.
We make sure the other is still happy and do what we can to keep the other less stressed. We check in to make sure we’re still satisfied in all areas of our marriage. We try to be very loving and respectful in everything we communicate with. So we try to talk more about the important things more than the less important things. Because everybody tends to tune out if you hear or talk bout the same general things every day. So just like all the areas of a relationship, communication needs to have spice too with some sugar too 😉 Some days, we do talk more than other days. It depends on how we are doing and feeling and all that. Kids do take up our time, and interrupt us a lot so that’s why text messaging is our outlet a lot for communicating things.
Prayer is also part of our communication although it’s not on the regular as a couple. But I do ask about it and pray on his behalf for things and he will too, if I ask as well.
New activities help us talk too. It’s important to keep your heart and mind open for your spouse.
We can’t read each other’s minds. We can’t know what they are actually feeling and thinking. We can assume but we’re not always right. SO it’ s always nice to ask with care, with how are you doing? How is your day? How’s work/home? Anything new to share? How’s family? Friends? Stuff like that. We’ll do that with shows that we watch too. Did you like that episode? etc.
If you don’t talk and communicate feelings and thoughts and dreams and stuff with your partner as openly and honest as it should be, it will be a down spiral fast. IN all areas of the relationship. As friends, as lovers. Emotionally, Romantically, Physically/Sexually, Spiritually, Mentally. etc. So do share both good and bad stuff too. So that you can actually be there, be of support, and encouragement in everything for your spouse. It really helps to really listen and then in time answer/help graciously for them. We’ve really come out of our shell, and growing individually and as a couple stronger for the last two years. Because we’re sharing more honest and direct feelings, thoughts and etc with each other. We’re able to keep making our marriage solid and fierce.